THE ISSUE OF CHILDREN, A LIFE PURPOSE OF A WOMAN AND AN ABORTION

Question:

Good afternoon. The question is about children.

In your lectures, you say that the main life purpose of a woman is to give birth and to raise good children (as well as for a man it is one of his main purposes). But the challenges of incarnation of people can be different. For example, Mother Teresa did not have children, Jesus Christ, too, had no such goals. Are they lost people then? If you have not given birth before you are 35 years old, then should you just go and commit suicide because of the failure of your destination? Maybe, in this life, children are not registered for this woman and she should work on something else. Could it be this way?

And the second thing is about abortion. The question, perhaps, sounds strange and people may start throwing stones in my direction, but … Is it always a woman who chooses such a thing? After all, the soul of an aborted child could choose this way, to purify itself quickly. We, as ordinary people, are often ignorant of the fact if it’s our choice that acts now or the karma does. Could it be that an abortion was already put on a fate of the child and the woman. Would this child, if born, have killed thousands, we don’t know this … It is clear that an abortion is bad, but whether my such thoughts are permissible at all?

I’ve heard somewhere a Vedic parable about one sage who killed a child. People came to him and protested — «How could you commit such a sin?»  The sage answered them- «If I wouldn’t kill him, he would have grown into a criminal and brought a lot of harm to the world.» Where we see the sin, can be a blessing, and vice versa.

This is the idea of an unnecessary polarity of the world, which says that duality is only in our minds, that there is no concept of «bad» and «good», «black» and «white» and so on. Of course, I do not agree that there is no concept of good and evil. Although, I may just be underdeveloped to this vision of the world.

I’m sorry for my long monologue, please, could you answer anything enlightening? Maybe it is all just silly and comes from my immature soul.

Daria, Moscow

Rami’s answer:

HELLO DARIA.

In your lectures, you say that the main life purpose of a woman is to give birth and to raise good children (as well as for a man it is one of his main purposes). But the challenges of incarnation of people can be different. For example, Mother Teresa did not have children, Jesus Christ, too, had no such goals. Are they lost people then? If you have not given birth before you are 35 y.o. then should you just go and commit suicide because of the failure of your destination?

YES, THAT’S WHY ALL TEACHERS SAY, IF THE PERSON HAVE DECIDED TO DEDICATE HIS WHOLE LIFE TO ASCETISM, MONASTICISM FOR SPIRITUAL GROWTH AND SERVICE TO ALL BEINGS, THEN IT IS POSSIBLE AND WELCOMED.

Maybe, in this life, children are not registered for this woman and she should work on something else. Could it be this way?

ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN, BUT EVEN FOR THE KALI YUGA (THE AGE OF DEGRADATION), IT IS RARITY. USUALLY, SUCH WOMEN HAVE SERIOUS GYNECOLOGICAL PROBLEMS FROM CHILDHOOD, WHICH DO NO ALLOW HER TO HAVE BIRTH.

..and the second thing is about abortion. The question, perhaps, sounds strange and people may start throwing stones in my direction, but … Is it always a woman who chooses such a thing?

YES, A WOMAN AND HER SURROUNDINGS. NOTE, THAT 100 YEARS AGO THERE WAS NO ABORTION AT ALL.

After all, the soul of an aborted child could choose this way, to purify itself quickly. We, as ordinary people, are often ignorant of the fact if it’s our choice that acts now or the karma does. Could it be that an abortion was already put on a fate of the child and the woman. Would this child, if born, have killed thousands, we don’t know this …

WHERE YOU COME TO THE SANDPIT AND HIT YOUR 3-YEAR-OLD-SON WITH A KNIFE, SAYING ‘SORRY DEAR, I WANT MY FREEDOM AND DON’T HAVE EXTRA MONEY TO SPEND ON YOU’, OR YOU KILL HIM IN THE WOMB, CONSEQUENCES ARE THE SAME.

ALTHOUGH WE CAN SAY THAT IT HAS HAPPENED TO PURIFY A CHILD’S SOUL. YES, EVERYTHING CAN BE JUSTIFIED BY KARMA, BUT THERE IS ALSO OUR CHOICE.

It is clear that an abortion is bad, but whether my such thoughts are permissible at all?

IN SENSIBLE WOMAN’S HEAD THERE COULD BE THOUSANDS OF DIFFERENT THOUGHTS SWEEPING OVER IN ONE MINUTE :). I HAVE HEARD, IN KALI YUGA THERE IS NO PUNISHMENT FOR THE THOUGHTS, BUT ONLY FOR DEEDS.

I’ve heard somewhere a Vedic parable about one sage who killed a child. People came to him and protested — «How could you commit such a sin?»  The sage answered them- «If I wouldn’t kill him, he would have grown into a criminal and brought a lot of harm to the world.» Where we see the sin, can be a blessing, and vice versa.

I’VE NEVER HEARD THIS, BUT IT CAN BE POSSIBLE. THE LANGUAGE OF VEDAS IS QUITE MULTIFACETED AND YOU CAN FIND THERE A JUSTIFICATION FOR ANY ACT.

This is the idea of an unnecessary polarity of the world, which says that duality is only in our minds, that there is no concept of «bad» and «good», «black» and «white» and so on. Of course, I do not agree that there is no concept of good and evil. Although, I may just be underdeveloped to this vision of the world.

FOR THE LIBERATED SOUL THERE IS NO DUALITY.

AND IN THAT CASE IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED AT THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:

—      WILL YOU OR YOUR RELATIVES GET SERIOUSLY ILL TOMORROW, WILL YOU BE HEALTHY WITH YOUR BODY AND MIND;

—      WILL YOU LIVE FULL, INTERESTING, INTUITIVE, CREATIVE LIFE OR AT THE LOWER ENERGIES OF IGNORANCE, AGRESSION, SUFFERING, MAJORITY OF ERRORS, ETC. YOU CAN LIVE, AS YOU WANT.

QUESTIONS OF ADVAITA (NON-DUALITY) SHOULD BE HANDLED BY THOSE WHOSE MINDS ARE DOMINATED BY SATTVA (GOODNESS)

I’m sorry for my long monologue, please, could you answer anything enlightening?

HAVE I MANAGED IT SOMEHOW;)?

Maybe it is all just silly and comes from my immature soul.

MAYBE ONE DAY YOU WILL FIND THESE QUESTIONS SILLY, BUT NOW AT YOUR LEVEL THEY ARE IMPORTANT FOR YOU, AND THAT’S FINE. DON’T BE AFRAID OF TO ASK QUESTIONS.